Everyone posts for different reasons; I personally started my own blog because I lost someone very close to me, someone who was going to be my husband. You may know my story but this is not all I want to share, most importantly I would like to share what I have learnt from this tragic experience.
Me and Joe met over two years ago 18th Feb 2012, he approached me on the bus while I was on my way home. Since he would normally go home the same way as me I didn’t think anything of it and would speak to him about the youth group we were both in. Little did I know he was interested in me…
After a number of questions and threats from my family and friends hahaha he asked if he could date me and he got the approval from my mum and dad. Yep the old fashion way, we kept the standards and it worked for us!
They say that when you get married you really get to know your partner and I agree, but I can say that I got to know Joseph during our dating period. He was a true gentleman, determined, strong, good-looking, great sense of style, funny and above all he had what we call a relationship with God.
So we grew to like one another more and more, I witness his hard battles and I was determined to be there for him to add to his life and not take away.
One thing I missed out was that Joe was of African origin (Sierra Leone) now I had no problems with that (being from St Lucia), but I will be honest I was afraid to meet his mum… LOL. He spoke so highly of her and I needed to get her approval too.
Joe met my family and they loved him, gosh that guy could talk, he loved watching movies and documentaries and my mum loved them too. When he met my mum I would leave them in the same room speaking about movies they spoke for three hours straight and forgot I was there. I say that because I’m not a movie buff so I got lost in their convo, but I was happy that they got along.
Ok so back to me, it was my turn to meet his mum, I was very nervous but he told me that his mother was cool and that helped a little. So I finally manage to go to his house for dinner to meet his family and I can say it was nice, as soon as she saw me she liked me :-).
The more time we spent together the more we were able to really see each other’s character, likes and dislikes. I liked walking in the parks, Joe liked going to the cinemas I was cool with that. I found that as time went by I started liking the things he liked. Sometimes we would have disagreements and that’s normally since we are two different people but in the end it was all love.
Note: our dating period was a time to see if we would decide to spend the rest of our lives together, hence the reason why we didn't live together when we were dating or allowed ourselves to be led away by romance. I believe that God can direct a person to make the right choice and since Joe and I were both Christians we would always pray about our relationship because marriage is for life and we didn't want to make a wrong decision. I once saw someone’s status that said “Better to be single than married and wanting to be single”. Oh gosh we had to play this smart people, we didn't want to mess up.
So after a year and 11 months I was thinking when is this guy gonna get down on his knee to propose hahaha…I mean our relationship developed in that space of time and there were no reasons why we could not get married right…
My church UCKG HelpCentre had a big event called The Love School (http://theloveschoolevent.com/) in Wembley arena. I arrived on time by myself and I was frustrated thinking, where is Joe? (lol) Not long after that he turns up saying he had to go West end to buy something (mmmmm) but he did say he would make it up to me. And he did, in front of 11,000 people, Joe proposed to me!
